Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

The only way to outrun the sorrow of losing the attentions and affections of the person you have loved is to use the fierce and fiery pain of it to catalyze your own awakening and propel you to become the person you were born to be.

Yet, once past the shocking realization that this was indeed happening, I turned my attention to making sure it happened well.

Feeling so terribly let down by life, all she believed to be true had fractured into a million little fragments that she could not piece together again. Psychologists call this a “schema fracture,” when our worldview is found to be insufficient to deal with

Both parties have done too many tours of duty and have been living for long periods of time with continual traumatic and disturbing events.

“I know you’re hurting, honey, but hurt is the risk we take when we open our heart to care about someone. Everyone gets his or her heart hurt at one time or another. I promise you, you’ll heal.”

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. MAYA ANGELOU

Conscious Uncoupling is a breakup or divorce that is characterized by a tremendous amount of goodwill, generosity, and respect, where those separating strive to do minimal damage to themselves, to each other, and to their children (if they have any), as well as intentionally seek to create new agreements and structures designed to set everyone up t

Another way we can keep a connection festering in our psyches is, ironically, by cutting it off too quickly.

To strive to overcome the limbic-brain-induced impulses to burn the house down, smash all the china, or give his expensive suits away to Goodwill—choosing