You want to let the agony you’re in wash you squeaky clean of every unconscious, fear-driven, and habitual way you’ve shown in life as a dimmed-down, inauthentic version of yourself. You want to take your hurt and transform it into a huge commitment to realize your potential for liberation, health, happiness, contribution, and the fulfillment of lo

You have nowhere to hide. Life has broken you open and it is violently, mercilessly forcing you to evolve, to develop, and to grow. In the immortal words of the great

If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don’t, they never were. KAHLIL GIBRAN

attention toward starting a new life, our brains are hardwired to increase our desire for the one we are losing, keeping us torturously entangled, as we desperately try to turn the Titanic around in a frenzied and highly focused state of craving, want, and longing. As the poet Terence once said, “The less my hope, the hotter my love.”

Hating someone you’ve loved to try to remove them from your psyche is akin to the primitive medical practice of giving someone a lobotomy to help rid them

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Fear just makes us plain old stupid. Right at the moment when we need our thinking brains the most to help sort through some incredibly important decisions, the consequences of which we will be living with for many years to come, our brains are programmed to not be thinking much at all.

If a romantic relationship ends for any reason other than one or both people die, we assume that relationship to be a failure.

for a healthy and humane way of ending a romantic union.