the concept that people do things for reasons, and that these reasons may be rooted in early experiences which are worth identifying so that we don’t blame the present for the past.

I ask what the other person would say happened.

But it is another thing to hear about what your group-bonding ritual is actually doing to another human being’s life.

actual Trauma and the fetishization of Trauma. It is the identification of traumatized people with bullies, who cannot be opposed or acknowledge mistakes. The Jews have an opportunity to deprogram themselves, as some of us have chosen to do when faced with the Palestinian challenge. We change our self-perception, our myths about ourselves. We

these actors displayed distorted thinking in which justifiable behavior was understood as aggression.

the anxiety from the action.

Now, normally when someone tells me that they are a victim and someone else is abusive, I first determine if they are in physical danger. If not, I then ask them a lot of questions so that I understand what has happened before I join in on condemning another human being.

rooted in group Supremacy.

And this, in turn, raised the question of whether or not we want people to be treated or to be punished.