Cognitive Reappraisal: The Art of Seeing Things Differently

A simple way to put cognitive reappraisal into practice is to remind yourself that the thing you’re feeling so bad about probably won’t matter that much in the future. You can do this by asking yourself the following three questions, which add up to what I call the 10/10/10 rule. Ask yourself:

I learned, for example, to turn my internal chatter to my advantage by reframing negative thoughts as useful data rather than objective reality.

Gently shifting your own perspective in a journal this way could lead to you being able to do it on the spur of the moment, as stressful events unfold. One interesting finding of the above study is that people who practiced this technique scored higher on a measure of emotional resiliency, i.e., they were more likely to believe that they were stron

This is how you produce a sense that the future can be fruitful and pleasant: by interpreting the shit the Feeling Brain slings at you in a profound and useful way. Instead of justifying and enslaving yourself to the impulses, challenge them and analyze them. Change their character and their shape.