Schedule fun into your routine. Learn to recognize when you need to play and what kinds of things you enjoy doing. If needed, you can make “learning to have fun” an immediate goal. Start doing things just for yourself, just because you want to. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but after a while it’ll feel better. It’ll become fun.

In love and dignity, speak the truth—as we think, feel, and know it—and it shall set us free.

For each of us, there comes a time to let go. You will know when that time has come. When you have done all you can do, it’s time to detach. Deal with your feelings. Face your fears about losing control. Gain control of yourself and your responsibilities. Free others to be who they are. In so doing, you will set yourself free.

Detachment involves living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day. We live freely.

A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect them and who is obsessed with controlling that other person’s behavior.

Whether the globe of your life shatters in one moment or develops fault lines and cracks slowly, trauma is about more than endings; it’s the beginning of transformation. The purpose of the shattering isn’t to stay broken; we can allow ourselves to be transformed and even take an active role in that transformation.

Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.

Many of us have learned to run from closeness rather than take the risks involved. We run from love or prevent closeness in many ways. We push people away or do hurtful things to them so they won’t want to be close to us. We do ridiculous things in our minds to talk ourselves out of wanting to be close. We find fault with everyone we meet; we

We don’t have to take rejection as a reflection of our self-worth. If somebody who is important (or even someone unimportant) to you rejects you or your choices, you are still real, and you are still worth every bit as much as you would be if you had not been rejected. Feel any feelings that go with rejection. Talk about your thoughts. But don’t