We are just used to so much turmoil and excitement that peace seems bland at first. We’ll get used to it. As we develop our lives, set our goals, and find things to do that interest us, peace will become comfortable—more comfortable than chaos. We will no longer need nor desire excited misery.

If you want to act crazy that’s your business, but you can’t do it in front of me. Either you leave or I’ll walk away. You can spoil your fun, your day, your life—that’s your business—but I won’t let you spoil my fun, my day, or my life.

no one is ultimately responsible for our feelings except us, no matter how much we insist they are. People might help us feel, but they don’t make us feel.

We react because we’re anxious and afraid of what has happened, what might happen, and what is happening.

We try to eliminate “shoulds” from our decisions and learn to trust ourselves.

We need to invite emotions into our lives. Then make a commitment to take gentle, loving care of them. Feel our feelings. Trust our feelings and trust ourselves. We are wiser than we think.

Say what we mean, and mean what we say. If we don’t know what we mean, be quiet and think about it.

Let others say those words and learn to listen—not fix—when they do.

You need to detach most when it seems the least likely or possible thing to do.