Socrates’ injunction “know thyself” speaks to this keystone of emotional intelligence: awareness of one’s own feelings as they occur.

‘Either you have your questions, or your questions have you.’

What’s really going on with me? Am I willing to forgive myself? And how do I want to feel?

“Action follows thought,” Grace added. “It’s a basic principle. But I never thought about it in terms of questions. Action follows questions. Seems to me the trick is to just keep ourselves in a Learner frame of mind.”

“If it’s true that you’re coming across as a know-it-all,” he continued, “which is the downfall of the Answer Man, you don’t leave much room for anyone else. You’re great at the technical stuff, Ben, but your present job requires much more than that.

Real personal power depends on how good we get at recovering from Judger once it takes over. That’

Thus Ben learns to self-coach,

With the ‘Judger agenda,’ as he called it, ‘the costs can be tremendous. The future can be only a recycled version of the past. And with the Learner program the power is on. The juice is flowing. You can actually make a new future for yourself.’

The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty “yes” to your adventure. Joseph Campbell