You have a story. About who you are, and what’s possible or not possible for you in love. Your story doesn’t necessarily live like words on a page. It’s more like an obscure field of energy that encompasses you. As though you were imprisoned by an invisible fence or, as psychotherapist Polly Young-Eisendrath describes it, caught in your own little

one who is actively pursuing the qualities of character that constitute a life of goodness and love.

The single most important thing you can do to break free of your old painful patterns, and begin living your version of happily ever after, is to ferociously challenge these narratives.

I become so disheartened sometimes listening to people telling me why they don’t need anyone to be happy in life. As though needing others was somehow a crutch. The truth is, we human beings are a pretty needy bunch.

Spiritual partnership implies the goal of inspiring and supporting the unfolding of each other’s souls in this journey through life.

we’ll want to stretch ourselves to consider having all that we desire—love, purpose, creativity, self-expression, career success, belonging, health, abundance, intimacy, and autonomy.

Luckily, however, you can. You are a maker of miracles. You possess the power to declare a future that is very different from your past, and begin leaning in to discover who you will need to become in order to manifest, then sustain, that experience.

Yet I am suggesting that by becoming curious about how you’re showing up with others now as an adult that is allowing, and even encouraging, the pattern to continue, you just might access the power you need to finally outgrow it.

No longer acting out her mother’s unhealthy modeling, or in reaction to what she thought others wanted or expected from her, she could start making choices that would allow her to create the kinds of relationships that she would actually want to be in. Immediately, she pledged to start showing up differently. To stay aware of her feelings, needs, a