someone who has good boundaries, who speaks up, who asks the right questions, who engages conflict directly, and who holds their own. As a person who listens to and honors their own intuitive knowing, who makes wise choices, who is less defensive, and more discerning of character. Who adequately protects themselves, who listens deeply, and who can

The single most important thing you can do to break free of your old painful patterns, and begin living your version of happily ever after, is to ferociously challenge these narratives.

Rather than running away from the you of your past, you are running toward becoming the you of your future.

Ask yourself: “In what ways am I failing to love, nurture, and commit to myself?”

Happiness and true freedom come only when we assume full responsibility for who and what we are.

All of our suffering in life is from saying we want one thing and doing another.

The first was “What will I need to give up to find my way to this future?” The second was “What will I need to embrace and/or cultivate to prepare myself to receive this future?” And the third, “What is my next step to co-create the fulfillment of this future?” (I added that one!)

These types of relationships—often with people who are not easily gotten rid of like a sibling, parent, or boss—suck the life force right out of us, draining much of our creativity and power, and reducing us to the least of who we are.

In order to access the power to manifest a miracle in your love life, you’re going to have to step back and see this pattern clearly, and begin to see how the pattern is actually happening through you, and not just to you.