Calling in "The One" Revised and Expanded: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life

we’ll want to stretch ourselves to consider having all that we desire—love, purpose, creativity, self-expression, career success, belonging, health, abundance, intimacy, and autonomy.

All of our suffering in life is from saying we want one thing and doing another.

Also make one or more plans that create possibilities for you to meet new people

I learned that dumping all of your negativity and judgments onto someone under the guise of “communication” was destructive.

Yet what I’ve seen countless times over the years is that it’s nearly impossible to create radical lasting change by ourselves, in isolation. We need a relational field in which to grow our capacity to love and be loved. Love doesn’t flourish by writing about it in our journals, and healing doesn’t happen just by reading a book. It happens in the s

The first was “What will I need to give up to find my way to this future?” The second was “What will I need to embrace and/or cultivate to prepare myself to receive this future?” And the third, “What is my next step to co-create the fulfillment of this future?” (I added that one!)

It means discovering how to be completely responsible for your own feelings and needs by understanding the lens through which you are interpreting, then responding to whatever’s happening between yourself and others.

In these moments, we must remember that who we are is far more vast than our ideas of who we are.

The traumas we internalized were either acute, such as the death of a parent, or developmental, such as being raised by a depressed or immature parent who constantly pulled on you to be the caregiver in your relationship, or what we therapists call the “parentified child.”