Calling in "The One" Revised and Expanded: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life

Ultimately, to forgive someone means to cancel the debt you believe they owe you, with faith in the overall goodness of Life.

Rather than running away from the you of your past, you are running toward becoming the you of your future.

It’s called the “internalized parent,”

The first was “What will I need to give up to find my way to this future?” The second was “What will I need to embrace and/or cultivate to prepare myself to receive this future?” And the third, “What is my next step to co-create the fulfillment of this future?” (I added that one!)

you, I suggest you begin creating an environment that reflects and supports the future you are calling in.

Happiness and true freedom come only when we assume full responsibility for who and what we are.

You have a story. About who you are, and what’s possible or not possible for you in love. Your story doesn’t necessarily live like words on a page. It’s more like an obscure field of energy that encompasses you. As though you were imprisoned by an invisible fence or, as psychotherapist Polly Young-Eisendrath describes it, caught in your own little

George Bernard Shaw once said that our “…worst sin toward our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them.”

The traumas we internalized were either acute, such as the death of a parent, or developmental, such as being raised by a depressed or immature parent who constantly pulled on you to be the caregiver in your relationship, or what we therapists call the “parentified child.”

In an effort to not appear inappropriately needy, some of us will shut down our needs entirely.