Calling in "The One" Revised and Expanded: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life

We’ll need to start showing up instead in ways that inspire others to mirror back to us the truth of our value and our power.

Or if you’re convinced that you aren’t good enough to get what you want, you may settle for less. Which then locks in evidence of your inferiority.

Given there is no real “you” there to love, you can all too easily become a shell of a person whom others can discard.

someone who has good boundaries, who speaks up, who asks the right questions, who engages conflict directly, and who holds their own. As a person who listens to and honors their own intuitive knowing, who makes wise choices, who is less defensive, and more discerning of character. Who adequately protects themselves, who listens deeply, and who can

You have a story. About who you are, and what’s possible or not possible for you in love. Your story doesn’t necessarily live like words on a page. It’s more like an obscure field of energy that encompasses you. As though you were imprisoned by an invisible fence or, as psychotherapist Polly Young-Eisendrath describes it, caught in your own little

The traumas we internalized were either acute, such as the death of a parent, or developmental, such as being raised by a depressed or immature parent who constantly pulled on you to be the caregiver in your relationship, or what we therapists call the “parentified child.”

The single most important thing you can do to break free of your old painful patterns, and begin living your version of happily ever after, is to ferociously challenge these narratives.

In these moments, we must remember that who we are is far more vast than our ideas of who we are.

In his book Search for the Real Self, psychotherapist James Masterson