Brain Food: Seldom Offend
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Brain Food: Seldom Offend
Too often, the people we ask for feedback are nice but not kind. Kind people will tell you things a nice person will not. A kind person will tell you that you have spinach on your teeth. A nice person won’t because it’s uncomfortable. A kind person will tell us what holds us back, even when it’s uncomfortable. A nice person avoids giving us critica
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Brain Food: Chalkboard Decisions
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Very early, I had a teacher who told me, “You have to choose carefully what you want to say. You can’t just say everything is wrong. People won’t like it.” So, I praise a lot of people all the time. I say what is good. I could stand on stage and say, “You are all ignorant,” but I don’t. I say, “I don’t know either.” So, I think it’s best to avoid t... See more
Shanna Carpenter • Q&A with Hans Rosling (Part 2): How to change Fidel Castro’s mind … and everybody else’s | TED Blog
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I know that the people who will make you feel warm and fuzzy when you’re sad, and the people who will give you brutally honest feedback, are usually different people. Ideally you want to have relationships with both kinds, and reward them for their strengths, rather than getting mad at them for failing to do what they’re bad at.
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- Don’t be overly sensitive. Sometimes others don’t think before they speak. Let careless remarks roll off your back, not ruin your day.
Francine Jay • Miss Minimalist: Inspiration to Downsize, Declutter, and Simplify
Be generous. Be generous with your time and your resources and with giving credit and, especially, with your words. It’s so much easier to be a critic than a celebrator. Always remember there is a human being on the other end of every exchange and behind every cultural artifact being critiqued. To understand and be understood, those are among... See more
Maria Popova • 13 Life-Learnings from 13 Years of Brain Pickings
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A sign of character is the ability to learn from people you might not like.
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