There are few better tests for whether or not someone lives a life in submission to God than what he or she does with their sexuality. Sex is such a powerful and meaningful desire, that to give it up and obey God in that area is a true sign of worship. It is a true sign that someone is willing to say, “Not my will, but Thine be done.” And that beco

Get a Life A full life is probably the best antidote for getting too close, too fast. Nature abhors a vacuum, and people tend to fill up emptiness with romantic commitment. Ask God to help you get involved in real life: spending time on friends, work, hobbies, church, service, and God himself.

For the very state of “being in love” is a state of idealization, where the other person is not really viewed through the eyes of reality.

While they are using them, they are keeping them back from finding someone who will truly value them.

But don’t throw hope away on things which have no reality behind them. That kind of hope makes the heart sick.

“Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked. . . . But his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither. Whatever he does prospers” (Psalm 1:1–3).

You will get what you tolerate. Don’t confront on everything that happens. If you do, you will be quarrelsome and difficult to be around. Do confront on things that are important—issues of dignity, consideration, values, and the like. Maybe let a few things slide once or twice, but do not allow a pattern of disrespect to occur. When you confront, d

If you follow this advice, you will show self-respect, which demands respect from others, and you will get it. If you follow this advice, you will save yourself from some very bad people. They will go away early. Or, you will help some pretty good ones to become better. Either way, you win.

Truthfulness is everything. While essential in the therapeutic relationship, honesty is the bedrock of dating and marriage as well.