But don’t throw hope away on things which have no reality behind them. That kind of hope makes the heart sick.

In a chapter about honesty, it is really important to remember that you will have a good relationship to the degree that you are able to be clear and honest about everything.

And it is difficult to keep someone out of your heart who has invaded your body.

People who are selfish and controlling can only be that way if they are in relationship with someone who is adaptive. If someone stands up to them and is honest about his or her wants and desires, then the controlling person has to learn to share or gets frustrated and goes away.

Make sure you’re not moving quickly because you are avoiding some other pain, such as loneliness or inner hurt.

While they are using them, they are keeping them back from finding someone who will truly value them.

Though he may not like the limits, if he has a good heart, he will submit to the limits and begin to grow up in his own boundaries.

If you follow this advice, you will show self-respect, which demands respect from others, and you will get it. If you follow this advice, you will save yourself from some very bad people. They will go away early. Or, you will help some pretty good ones to become better. Either way, you win.

Here are some examples of necessary time-consuming dating activities on the road to becoming committed to someone: Having enough talks to safely open up with each other Entering each other’s worlds of work, hobbies, worship, and service Meeting and spending time with each other’s friends Understanding each other’s strengths and weaknesses Going