Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships

from a vacuum, you are in great danger.

So many married couples look back on their dating lives and regret that they did not take more time to evaluate, question, explore, and challenge issues with each other.

Are you confusing infatuation with love? Infatuation is a projection of needs and idealized fantasies onto a person that have little to do with who that person really is. Many times people come up with a kind of person who symbolizes a lot of things that they need or idealize and feel that they are falling in love with someone when in reality it is

Stay integrated morally and don’t get caught in the saint/sinner split. Remember that you’re both good and bad.

Use experienced, spiritually mature people for support. Avoid those who idealize you as the innocent victim and see him as nothing but a creep. These sorts of friends can bolster your confidence, but do little to help you be objective and neutral. They tend to divide relationships and can often instill a sense of entitled arrogance in others which

Not saying anything, which can imply consent Treating it lightly or as something cute or funny in your date Vacillating between doing nothing and having rage fits about it, which conveys a confusing message Making it all your fault and problem instead of your date’s

Good boundaries run off the wackos, and attract people who are into responsibility and relationship. But when our boundaries are unclear or undeveloped, we run the risk of allowing people inside who shouldn’t be there.

Though he may not like the limits, if he has a good heart, he will submit to the limits and begin to grow up in his own boundaries.

Ground yourself in values and character. Those are things that do not disappoint.

There are few better tests for whether or not someone lives a life in submission to God than what he or she does with their sexuality. Sex is such a powerful and meaningful desire, that to give it up and obey God in that area is a true sign of worship. It is a true sign that someone is willing to say, “Not my will, but Thine be done.” And that beco