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Both are true
Paradoxes are capable of holding seemingly opposing facts and deeper levels of complexity which, in my experience, are often closer to reality. And yes, they can be uncomfortable, too. And even just naming that we hold these paradoxes can soften something inside. The idea of ‘wrongness’ can give way to more curiosity and compassion. For example:
Laura Cincera • The Art of Holding Both
both are true: I hold a lot of conflicting beliefs, and have become happier the longer I’ve sat with them and realized that internal conflicts are a fact of life.
“The culture tells us two things can’t coexist. People say to me ‘I want to love my life but also pay my rent’ or ‘I want to be super mature but also child-like’, or ‘I want to travel but I’m also a homebody’ or ‘I want to be productive and also relaxed.’ Calm down... you can do both.” — Martha Beck