Blame Game Theory - by Aella - Knowingless

We have been convinced we are ineffectual at exacting any real change against our social systems and structures, so instead we land the guilt and blame squarely on the shoulders of the most accessible party: ourselves. This burden has kept us immobile in our own lives and oblivious to our impact in the world. The weight of the shame has kept us sma

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That ‘individual responsibility’ idea is present in so many messages from awareness campaigns: the idea that it is our duty to reach out to loved ones and services for help; the suggestion that mental health support should come in the form of a ‘service’ at all; the emphasis on individual tools like therapy, meds, self-help, mindfulness and apps to

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In today's society, where are there places for a man to act “like a man”-- i.e. exert independent power of will, with visible results? Video games, sports betting and following the news are all socially acceptable answers, and not very satisfying. What's the result? “Out of nowhere-- he just snapped!” “Society's” “suppression” of “masculinity” is b

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I think what happened is this: When the stalker entered my life, I was at a low point in personal capacity — broke, alone, addled, etc. My approach towards him at that point (ignore, hoping he’d stop) was the only one that seemed available given my spiritual and psychological resources at the time. But my orientation to the problem became fixed in ... See more