Nowadays she’ll reach out and call Joy in a moment of chaos and say, “Sweetie, I’m having a horrible day. Can you tell me how wonderful I am, what a great job I’m doing, and how beautiful and lovable I am?”

Challenge: In what ways are you hiding your true desires and waiting for someone to read your mind?

She uses words like never, always, forever, all, everybody, must, nothing, and no one to punish you and make you feel like a lost cause. She sees things only in black and white, leaving no room for being human.

Let’s declare that it is empowering to ask for what you want and to get it. Step out of the mind-reading trap and into the kind of delight you may have experienced as a kid on your birthday: asking for and getting what you want!

Affirmation: I celebrate even the hint of good news, because I know that joy begets more joy!

Challenge: Get in tune with your sexual desires, and express them to your romantic partner. Here are some suggestions to help you get started: • Make a list of the top ten places you like to be touched and kissed (aside from your genitals). Be creative: Do you love to have your neck nibbled? Your back rubbed? Your feet tickled? • Write each desire

Affirmation: Even my work feels like play because I follow my inspirations.

Challenge: Make a list of three challenges you face. Now imagine that you are in a helicopter high up in the air, far above them all. Watch as your problems begin to fade until they are mere dots on the ground. Notice what you can see from this vantage point. Look where you’re headed. Look to the land of solution. Look to the land of desire. Now

Get your power back by declaring how you will be with the undone things in your life. Feeling rushed, overly busy, and stressed is a choice.