I usually start off very light and work my way into more and more pressure, asking my partner if more feels good. As we talked about in the communication chapter, it’s a great hack to give your partner a contrast of two types of touch—hard and soft in this case—and ask which they like better. In the heat of the moment, picking an option is faster a

The position of the cervix in the vagina varies from woman to woman. Also, the cervix ascends and descends in the vaginal canal at different points in the menstrual cycle. Getting to know where your partner’s cervix sits in her vagina is important. If you’re super comfortable with a partner, I recommend getting a plastic speculum and a flashlight a

Compare the Doxy vibrator, which has a big head to cover a broad space,

When your partner starts reacting with pleasure, keep doing the action that drives them wild. Don’t change the sensation too much.

Pro tip If you and your partner want to try stimulation of deeper areas of the vagina around the cervix for the first time, have her rub her clit so she gets reliable stimulation she likes as you try the new technique. Neurons that fire together wire together, so if your partner is warmed up and already experiencing pleasure, she’s more likely to f

The P-spot is behind the cervix towards the anus. Turn your hand palm-down and use the pad of your finger to sweep half-moon shapes from one side to the other. Like you saw in Chapter Two, if your partner likes sensation from her P-spot, chances are good she also likes anal stimulation. Both P-spot and anal play stimulate the same nerves from diffe

speak. Try moving your finger in circles with different amounts of pressure to see if your partner likes stimulation in the A-spot.

This is one reason partnered sex can be so much better than solo sex: you can position yourself in a variety of orientations, which means you can reach places and angles that your partner can’t. As you explore your partner’s clit, vulva, and

Like we talked about in Chapter Three, watching your partner masturbate is a great way to understand how she likes her clit to be touched. You can start with the same techniques to give her the same stimulation she gives herself and build from there. Remember the clit clocking game from Chapter Three? Watch for how your partner moves her finger aro