Beyond Satisfied

After you’ve found the location and angle, it’s time to find the threshold of sensation that gives your partner the most pleasure. At this point, she’s already reacting to your touch—can you get her to react a little bit more? Play with giving your partner more or less pressure. An interesting feature about our complex network of nerve endings is t

I usually start off very light and work my way into more and more pressure, asking my partner if more feels good. As we talked about in the communication chapter, it’s a great hack to give your partner a contrast of two types of touch—hard and soft in this case—and ask which they like better. In the heat of the moment, picking an option is faster a

This is one reason partnered sex can be so much better than solo sex: you can position yourself in a variety of orientations, which means you can reach places and angles that your partner can’t. As you explore your partner’s clit, vulva, and

For a more in-depth illustration of different biomechanical angles, check out my instructional videos at KennethPlay.com

Pro tip If you and your partner want to try stimulation of deeper areas of the vagina around the cervix for the first time, have her rub her clit so she gets reliable stimulation she likes as you try the new technique. Neurons that fire together wire together, so if your partner is warmed up and already experiencing pleasure, she’s more likely to f

Just keep fucking doing what you’re doing.

I’ve made more women cum with my hands than with any other tool. Hands down (no pun intended), fingers are the most effective, underrated tools for learning how your partner’s body responds to different kinds of sensation. My fiancée and I joke

When your partner starts reacting with pleasure, keep doing the action that drives them wild. Don’t change the sensation too much.

If your partner likes fast, vigorous sensation, you may only be able to keep it up for thirty seconds to a minute. Keep those techniques as your secret weapons in reserve. Don’t bust them out when your partner is just getting warmed up. Wait until the moment when she’s fully aroused and intense stimulation can have the most impact.