Beyond Satisfied

I recommend starting with hands to get a practical understanding of your partner’s body and her pleasure points first. When you add toys in after gaining knowledge first, the toys become an extension of you, and you’ll know exactly how to use them.

A fun fact here: vibrators were invented in the Victorian era when doctors’ hands were getting worn out from giving so many orgasms to their patients!

Your fingers may tire as you stimulate deep spots inside your partner’s vagina, but you can rock an nJoy Wand against her G-spot much more easily.

If your partner likes fast, vigorous sensation, you may only be able to keep it up for thirty seconds to a minute. Keep those techniques as your secret weapons in reserve. Don’t bust them out when your partner is just getting warmed up. Wait until the moment when she’s fully aroused and intense stimulation can have the most impact.

I usually start off very light and work my way into more and more pressure, asking my partner if more feels good. As we talked about in the communication chapter, it’s a great hack to give your partner a contrast of two types of touch—hard and soft in this case—and ask which they like better. In the heat of the moment, picking an option is faster a

After you’ve found the location and angle, it’s time to find the threshold of sensation that gives your partner the most pleasure. At this point, she’s already reacting to your touch—can you get her to react a little bit more? Play with giving your partner more or less pressure. An interesting feature about our complex network of nerve endings is t

Just keep fucking doing what you’re doing.

When your partner starts reacting with pleasure, keep doing the action that drives them wild. Don’t change the sensation too much.

This concept is beautifully covered in the OMG Yes course, in their module called “Broadening.”