Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home

But as many aboriginal cultures view it, time is more circular in pattern; not like the Western linear comprehension of time as past-present-future, but flexible to the individual at the centre of that “time-circle.”

consciousness onto those rejected, forgotten, and denied

After a few years living on our little island in British Columbia, I began to fall in love with this one summer bird who sings at dusk in a mesmerizing melody of upward spirals. I came to know it not by sight, but by its song, which praises the setting sun, signalling the end of a long day. In our house, we call it the ‘goodnight bird.’ The goodnig

If we look at all the characters in the dream as aspects of the self, we can see that it is we who are abandoning our commitment to ourselves every time we compare ourselves unfavourably to another.

Yet in our culture, we are deeply unskilled with grief. We hold it at a distance as best we can, both in ourselves and in each other,

This as-above-so-below thinking is one of the great capacities born of dreamwork.

The world needs your unbelonging. It needs your disagreements, your exclusion, your ache to tear the false constructions down, to find the world behind

This book is the travelogue of the initiation that took years and a passage through seemingly endless gates, each of which required the relinquishment of something precious to me.

If you have invited such a person or group to move consciously through conflict, and they’ve refused you, first you must give yourself wholeheartedly to grief. In French, instead of “I miss you,” we say, “Tu me manques” which means “you are missing from me.” In your grief, you are valuing the impact of your separation, the missing they’ve left behi