Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate

but you should have weeded this one out back at the three-month point. He’s never said or done one thing that would indicate he’s ready to settle down.

If his parents had a bad marriage as well, that’s a double jinx. He could be under the impression that all women are like his mother, or like his ex-wife, and he’s lost faith in the institution.

When you see someone behaving in ways he has complained about, say something like, “Wow, I don’t see how people can act that way. I would never dream of doing something like that.” Also, look around you for examples of great, happy marriages and draw his attention to them.

parents would never approve of the match and he doesn’t want to disappoint them. It’s a bad sign if he hasn’t introduced you to his parents yet at the nine months to one year point. If,

percent to your 40 percent, unless you make more money than he does, then it should be 50/50.

“I’ll get married as soon as I’m financially ready.” If you sense this is an issue, you need to go out of your way to convince him that you’ll be happy with a small ring, an intimate ceremony, and a cozy apartment for the first several years of marriage.

Complacency is not fatal to your relationship. If he seems like he’s a little too comfortable and therefore not inclined to make a move, you’re going to have to do something to motivate him. Shake the tree.

It’s all about negotiation during this period, and the wise woman knows how to pick her battles. Is that annoying thing he’s doing really worth a fight, or can you bring it to his attention in a nonthreatening way?

John Gray is 100 percent correct when he says, in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, that men are like rubber bands, and if you let them go far enough, they’ll eventually snap back. He also wisely and accurately states that men need to go into their caves sometimes, and you should leave them alone in there so that they can think and brood and

But in order for him to feel like the provider male, he should contribute 60