Be where you are

The less I’m trying to get something out of an experience, the more I find I can get into it, and the more I can be present for other people involved in it. This is not to say that life becomes a matter of unbroken good cheer; after all, it’s sad that a beautiful moment arises then vanishes. But it’s the flavor of sadness conveyed by the Japanese p

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A struggle inward rather than upward or outward, a reorientation away from growth in an objective sense.

I’m working on becoming more aware, ultimately—just as good at noticing what’s always been here as what’s just arrived or hasn’t yet. No surprise I’m basically just describing mindfulness, one of the oldest human pursuits, increasingly urgent. So... See more

We never grow by dreaming about a future wonderful state or by remembering past feats. We grow by being where we are and experiencing what our life is right now. We must experience our anger, our sorrow, our failure, our apprehension; they can all be our teachers, when we do not separate ourselves from them. When we escape from what is given, we ca

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Before we can move forward, we have to make space for what’s ending and sit in the uncertainty that follows. That uncomfortable, in-between space—the neutral zone, the abyss—isn’t a problem to solve. It’s where change and realignment happens.

Sitting in lostness can feel excruciating for ambitious types who are so used to doing. But when you’re lost... See more