When Richard wrote to his sister, who lives back in England, about our getting married, this is what he wrote, and I’ll leave you with his words, trusting you know everything is provisional, everything is in flux—or maybe not everything: “I think it has got inside us, the tsunami of enthusiasm. Laurie and I appear to have decided to be more tender ... See more

After seven years of marriage and seven years of still looking at those undershirts with the tags still on, I finally put them in a bag to be donated to charity. It was bittersweet, but also there was a sense of relief: I no longer had to sit around wondering what I was doing wrong, why my married-glamorous self refused to present itself, why I was

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