Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
by Brené Brown
updated 14h ago
by Brené Brown
updated 14h ago
we might even feel a pang of jealousy when a partner or friend spends a lot of time alone, doing something that doesn’t involve us. We might feel anger, or sadness, or fear, but what goes through our mind is that we are jealous. And the reason for our jealousy (and the accompanying emotion) is that the other person or activity is threatening to tak
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Envy occurs when we want something that another person has. Jealousy is when we fear losing a relationship or a valued part of a relationship that we already have.
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Even if we do not choose whether or not to make a comparison, we can choose whether or not to let that comparison affect our mood or self-perceptions.”
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Many researchers talk in terms of upward and downward comparisons.
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I can’t wait to share my project presentation with the team tomorrow. They’re going to be blown away and really appreciate how hard I’ve worked. Is there a way to feel validated other than your team’s saying something? It’s dangerous to put your self-worth in other people’s hands. Again, no matter what you do, you can’t control other people’s respo
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I used to think the best way to go through life was to expect the worst. That way, if it happened, you were prepared, and if it didn’t happen, you were pleasantly surprised. Then I was in a car accident and my wife was killed. Needless to say, expecting the worst didn’t prepare me at all. And worse, I still grieve for all of those wonderful moments
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We try to model the questions: What expectations do you have going into this? What do you want to happen? Why? What will that mean to you? Do you have a movie in your head? And in this perception-driven world, the big question is always: Are you setting goals and expectations that are completely outside of your control?
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This can take the shape of numbing, foreboding joy, being cynical or critical, or just never really fully engaging.
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Why have I stopped believing that we can recognize emotion in other people? Two reasons: Too many emotions and experiences present the exact same way. There’s no way to know through observation if your tears come from grief, despair, hopelessness, or resentment, just to name a few. Absolutely no way. While research shows that there are some univers
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