As a psychiatrist, I’ve seen how chasing happiness leads to misery | Psyche Ideas
In fact, oftentimes it’s the striving and pursuit of happiness that blocks us from having the experiences we most want. Why? When we fixate on what’s missing — like six pack abs or hot sex with a co-worker or everlasting happiness — we can enter a dynamic that has us dismiss what we’ve already got.
Tripp Lanier • This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle
Sometimes it looks like the person living this way is suffering, not going after the satisfactions that most people associate with happiness.
A. H. Almaas • Diamond Heart: Elements of the Real in Man
happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue. One must have a reason to “be happy.”
Viktor E. Frankl • Man's Search for Meaning
We know that if you’re starving, lonely, or in pain, you’ll probably get happier if you get food, friends, and relief. After that, the returns diminish very quickly. You could read all the positive psychology you want, take the online version of The Science of Wellbeing ("Yale’s Most Popular Course Ever!”), read my post on hacking the hedonic tread... See more
Adam Mastroianni • Why aren't smart people happier?
Because here’s the deal — if we “hustled” and climbed that big mountain and “crushed” all of our goals and made our big awesome vision board a reality, and we still found ourselves feeling trapped, drained, isolated, bored, or stressed out, we’d have to wonder… “What the hell is this shit? What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I be happy?” As we’ve discu
... See moreTripp Lanier • This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle
to desire only happiness in a world undoubtedly tragic is to become inauthentic, to settle for unrealistic abstractions that ignore concrete situations.
Eric G. Wilson • Against Happiness
You’re always trying to get away from pain, and you get more pain. The mind can’t make sense of this. How can you be happy if you don’t try to be happy?