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Are you stuck in movie logic?
A central way to disarm the danger of suffocating others with reality is therefore to resist the urge to tell them what we suspect is wrong with them. Whatever the provocation and however late the hour, we must never sink to giving out overly direct diagnoses or grand summaries of their condition. There is strictly no point in saying, “It all comes
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I used to think that the way towards more genuine conversation was advancing the schedule of intimacy instantly by plunging into difficult, weird, or controversial topics, usually by asking some intense question, like, “what are you most afraid of.” I think lots of aspiring conversationalists—especially men—do this when they’re new to intentionally
... See moreore often than not, our fear doesn’t help us avoid the feelings; it simply subjects us to them for an agonizingly long time. We feel the suffering of procrastination, or the frustration of a stuck relationship. I know partnerships that drag along painfully for years because no one is willing to speak about the elephant in the room. Taking risks, an
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Next, carefully state the issue without placing blame on anyone. Avoid broad-brushed statements like You always…or You never…The moment you say something like that, the other person’s defense mechanisms turn on and he or she no longer hears what you are saying. It is easy to brush off such absolute statements. Stick with saying, I feel alone. I fee
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