Are You Ruining Your Life? | Your Next Breakthrough

You must determine where you are going in your life, because you cannot get there unless you move in that direction. Random wandering will not move you forward. It will instead disappoint and frustrate you and make you anxious and unhappy and hard to get along with (and then resentful, and then vengeful, and then worse).

Whether or not we live fulfilling lives often depends on our ability to honestly ask ourselves, How did I get here? Am I happy where I am? If not, how do I go to go somewhere different?

If you are fortunate or unfortunate enough to wonder:

“What should I spend my time working on?”

Then perhaps a better question is:

“Where am I most afraid to fail?”

When we’re avoiding some path because failure would destroy us, that’s often the path we need to go down.

Because if we aren’t afraid of failing, do we really care at all?

Once you know where you are, and where you want to go, the last thing you need to do is make sure you don't have any conflicting goals. When someone is grinding this is usually what's happening—but the conflicts between goals can be subtle and hard to see.

Don’t underestimate the power of vision and direction. These are irresistible forces, able to transform what might appear to be unconquerable obstacles into traversable pathways and expanding opportunities. Strengthen the individual. Start with yourself. Take care with yourself. Define who you are. Refine your personality. Choose your destination a... See more