You know this isn’t normal… right? That constant anxiety in your chest. The waiting, the walking on eggshells, the wondering if you’re too much. That’s not love — it’s survival mode. But when chaos is what raised you, calm feels suspicious. You confuse emotional... See more

It’s tough having an avoidant or anxious partner. 😮‍💨 I can’t believe how we used to talk to each other and treat each other… it was a lot of controlling and dependency and keeping one another in the dark… no wonder we had such a rocky start! 🥴 But kind, secure, collaborative words and behaviors can be PRACTICED and... See more

If you’re anxiously attached, the anxious-avoidant cycle can feel like quicksand. You try harder, they pull away. You feel too much, they shut down. You chase, they withdraw. Then, they come back just enough to keep you hoping. It’s an exhausting cycle. The thing most people don’t tell you, though, is that you’re not... See more

If you’re anxiously attached, safety in relationships can feel out of reach. You want to trust, stay calm, and feel secure, but your body keeps preparing for loss even when you really are safe. Your anxious patterns are trying to help you survive. When love felt inconsistent early on in your life, your nervous system... See more

Anxious + Avoidant couples have DIFFERENT struggles: 10 Anxious Attachment Pains: 😰 Constant abandonment fear: feeling alone, unloved, rejected. 🤨Seeking endless reassurance: draining both partners. 😖Misreading neutrality as rejection: anxiety spirals over small... See more