Anger

Listen with only one purpose: to allow the other person to express himself and find relief from his suffering. Keep compassion alive during the whole time of listening.

Learning to listen to the other person can really help her to transform her anger and suffering.

To eat well, we should chew our food about fifty times before we swallow.

We have to take very good care of our body if we want to master our anger. The way we eat, the way we consume, is very important.

When a person’s speech is full of anger, it is because he or she suffers

Our dualistic view tells us that mind cannot be body, and body cannot be mind. But looking deeply, we see that body is mind, mind is body. If we can overcome the duality that sees the mind and body as entirely separate, we come very close to the truth.

It needs only one conscious breath to be back in contact with yourself and everything around you, and three conscious breaths to maintain the contact.

If your house is on fire, the most urgent thing to do is to go back and try to put out the fire, not to run after the person you believe to be the arsonist. If you run after the person you suspect has burned your house, your house will burn down while you are chasing him or her. That is not wise.

You must go back and put out the fire. So when you are angry, if you continue to interact with or argue with the other person, if you try to punish her, you are acting exactly like someone who runs after the arsonist while everything goes up in flames.