Anger

You have to focus on the practice of listening with all your attention,

To understand and transform anger, we must learn the practice of compassionate listening and using loving speech.

Learning to listen to the other person can really help her to transform her anger and suffering.

When the Catholic woman arrived, her friend let her sit alone in the living room and listen to a dharma talk on restoring communication. During the hour or hour and a half that she listened to the dharma talk, she went through a very deep transformation within herself. She found out many things. She realized that she was partly responsible for her

To eat well, we should chew our food about fifty times before we swallow.

The making of alcohol also involves creating suffering. The use of the grains in its production is linked to the lack of food in the world. Mindfulness of eating and drinking can bring us this liberating insight.

If your house is on fire, the most urgent thing to do is to go back and try to put out the fire, not to run after the person you believe to be the arsonist. If you run after the person you suspect has burned your house, your house will burn down while you are chasing him or her. That is not wise.

You must go back and put out the fire. So when you are angry, if you continue to interact with or argue with the other person, if you try to punish her, you are acting exactly like someone who runs after the arsonist while everything goes up in flames.

It needs only one conscious breath to be back in contact with yourself and everything around you, and three conscious breaths to maintain the contact.