It needs only one conscious breath to be back in contact with yourself and everything around you, and three conscious breaths to maintain the contact.

When the Catholic woman arrived, her friend let her sit alone in the living room and listen to a dharma talk on restoring communication. During the hour or hour and a half that she listened to the dharma talk, she went through a very deep transformation within herself. She found out many things. She realized that she was partly responsible for her

In Buddhism we call the body/mind formation namarupa.

To understand and transform anger, we must learn the practice of compassionate listening and using loving speech.

We have to take very good care of our body if we want to master our anger. The way we eat, the way we consume, is very important.

Learning to listen to the other person can really help her to transform her anger and suffering.

You must go back and put out the fire. So when you are angry, if you continue to interact with or argue with the other person, if you try to punish her, you are acting exactly like someone who runs after the arsonist while everything goes up in flames.

The Buddha gave us very effective instruments to put out the fire in us: the method of mindful breathing, the method of mindful walking, the method of embracing our anger, the method of looking deeply into the nature of our perceptions, and the method of looking deeply into the other person to realize that she also suffers a lot and needs help.

A film is like a piece of beefsteak. It can contain anger. If you consume it, you are eating anger, you are eating frustration. Newspaper articles, and even conversations, can contain a lot of anger.