Gaining a Victory

To understand and transform anger, we must learn the practice of compassionate listening and using loving speech.

It needs only one conscious breath to be back in contact with yourself and everything around you, and three conscious breaths to maintain the contact.

We have to take very good care of our body if we want to master our anger. The way we eat, the way we consume, is very important.

Anger Is Not Strictly a Psychological Reality

Listen with only one purpose: to allow the other person to express himself and find relief from his suffering. Keep compassion alive during the whole time of listening.

You must go back and put out the fire. So when you are angry, if you continue to interact with or argue with the other person, if you try to punish her, you are acting exactly like someone who runs after the arsonist while everything goes up in flames.

We will transform from a sea of fire into a refreshing lake. Then, not only do we stop suffering, but we also become a source of joy and happiness for many people around us.

When you get angry, go back to yourself, and take very good care of your anger. And when someone makes you suffer, go back and take care of your suffering, your anger. Do not say or do anything.