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Anatomy of an internet argument
Here are 13 things that every skilled chaos-surfer understands:
- How something appears to you may not be how it is.
- What is said or shown may not be all there is.
- What is true for me may not be true for you.
- The same words may mean different things to different people.
- What people say may not be what they mean. Because comms is lossy and language is
Packy McCormick • visakan veerasamy on Substack
The thing about assuming good intent is that it creates space for actual resolution. When you approach someone's difficult behavior as information rather than attack, you can respond from curiosity instead of defensiveness. You can ask questions instead of building cases. You can offer understanding instead of demanding explanations.
What are They Carrying?
Honest argument is merely a process of mutually picking the beams and motes out of each other’s eyes so both can see clearly
Why disagreement is vital to advancing human understanding | Aeon Essays
Here’s what I’ve found to be a far more productive method: Treat the conversation as if it’s a puzzle. Why do they believe what they believe? Why do I believe what I believe? What evidence would change their mind or my mind? What do we agree on? Is there anything productive we can do together, even if we don’t agree on every issue? Imagine you are... See more