An essay in which my friend feels stuck and I suggest relaxing some constraints

Life Philosophy

Understanding Yourself

You don't have direct access to reality—no one does.

Your brain constructs reality from bits of incoming information. What you perceive is a simulation crafted by your mind. Remarkably, you have the power to shape this simulation into either a heaven or a hell.

Your beliefs shape your capabilities.

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I think it’s interesting how this happens—the way the highest functioning aspects of our machinery, however miraculous or unique, disappear into the background of our perception. I thought of this in a more personal context the other day, when a friend was feeling depressed about a lack of momentum in her career. She was plagued by memories of how ... See more

What do you want? This is a deceptively simple question. It can be much more difficult than we realize to give ourselves permission to know and listen to ourselves, to align ourselves with our desires. How often when we answer this question do we say what we want for someone else? I reminded Ling and Jun that they needed to answer this question for

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