Am I Trans Enough?: How to Overcome Your Doubts and Find Your Authentic Self

Again, “Well, what the hell did you think was going to happen?” What they thought was going to happen is probably that this treatment might make them feel better.

It is not uncommon to feel even more confused after proceeding with early aspects of transition.

We believe that anything negative that may occur after making these decisions is our fault.

By not presupposing what your gender is and what it should be okay with, you allow yourself to determine the truth of it.

there will never be a way to flawlessly determine who is the perfect candidate for transition without removing a person’s agency.

This other trans person is having an experience you were not able to have and it feels personal.

Again, if you have been endlessly obsessing about gender, it is pretty unlikely that you are cis,

When your brain tells you that your feeling is not acceptable or not allowed or not a big deal or anything else that keeps you removed from it, you follow up with and I am still sad that I did not get a chance to do [x].

a life of low levels of unease or distress is far from thriving. A life where things just feel vaguely off and uncomfortable for decades is still a burden.