Am I Trans Enough?: How to Overcome Your Doubts and Find Your Authentic Self

feminine trans men will generally have an entirely different trajectory than a masculine-presenting trans man, where their femininity will be seen as in line with their assumed cis female identity until it isn’t, and the swift and drastic change in feedback is a shock to everyone involved.

Joy and calm and a sense of rightness come from an embodied experience.

The desire to fit in and not be shunned by your peers usually wins out over trying to be someone far outside the gender norms. This can result in the splitting off or fragmentation that we mentioned. And sometimes you role-play or act for such a long time that you forget that you are doing it, and it takes well into the process of transition to not

If inner child work is about reconnecting with safety, then the work of reconnecting with your inner adolescent is about working out and integrating your identity.

The times when you feel like having a tantrum, or pouting, or start feeling small and wanting to shrink into a corner are often times when that little kid wants to be noticed. And those can be the best times to check in with them. You can start by asking what they need and listening to the answer.

writing on paper or speaking to your younger self out loud. For

But it hinges on determining what kind of adult you needed as a child and being that for yourself now.

whether we experience something as trauma or not has a lot to do with whether we are capable of coping with the event that is occurring. Some trauma experts have called trauma an experience that overwhelms our ability to cope.

In order to keep memories as a story of my self, it turns out I needed a sense of self.