that life is worth every bit of suffering and craziness it entails, just to be here for the ride.

PAUSE stands for “Perhaps An Unseen Solution Exists.”)

Make your house into a temple of emptiness, my tired darling, and peace will come live with you forever.

And when everything else has blown up, the truth will always—always—be left standing, patiently waiting for everyone to acknowledge it at last.

Rather than speaking honestly about my feelings and needs, I kept my motives hidden behind a gesture of grand generosity.

I was steadily moving my love and loyalty away from one person and toward another—just as surely as if I were moving a valuable set of silverware from one home to another, one spoon at a time, while nobody was looking.

didn’t want to hurt anyone, I didn’t want to get hurt, I didn’t want to lose anything I already had, and I didn’t want to lose anybody.

Because secrecy is the greenhouse in which addiction blooms, flourishes, and metastasizes.

But here’s what I also know: I kept it secret.