The key to a successful marriage is to be happy with the way things are, not the way they could be if only he changed.

The Rule is that as hard as you worked to play hard to get is how hard you must work to be easygoing! Be kind, considerate, and patient; try to overlook his faults and build up his ego—tell him how good he looks, try to see things his way. Don’t expect him to see things your way all the time.

When he asks you out, silently count to five before saying yes. It will make him nervous and that’s good!

In Love Story—a movie you should study like the Bible—Oliver proposes to Jenny (a Rules girl, if there ever was one) after she says she’s planning to take a scholarship in France and after suggesting that their opposite (rich/poor) backgrounds would not mix well.

You’re busy with interests and hobbies and dating, and you’re not calling or chasing men. You have high self-esteem

way to protect yourself from pain is to not get emotionally involved too quickly.

Last But Not Least—12 Extra Hints

Act independent. Always be coming or going. Don’t sit on the couch waiting for him to come home.

We just show up, do The Rules, and whoever likes us, likes us, and who doesn’t? We accept whatever happens. We’re laid back and confidant. We don’t struggle.