Sadly, once you are out of childhood, these maladaptive reactions remain easily triggered by feelings of uncertainty. In many situations, you automatically default to fear. Because you have experienced a lifetime of emotional trauma, it is difficult to imagine that things in life could go well for you. You have been conditioned to live from such

Emotionally abusive parents cannot function without a target to pester. For example, they may pursue legal actions, revenge, or no-win disputes for years. Should you question them, they will double down on control and turn a simple question into a war that you will lose. Remedy: If you have no choice but to be under the care of your parents, it is

Results of Emotional Abuse on the Scapegoat Here are the effects of what emotional abuse can do to the scapegoat. Difficulty Forming Intimate Relationships It would make sense from being ostracized throughout your childhood that, as an adult, you could struggle with emotional and physical intimacy. Remedy: Practice being open to love. Being in love

In no-man’s-land, it is this resolve that made me aware I was exactly where I needed to be. I would rather be parentless and sibling-less than manipulated, used, and abused. I can cope far greater with the hurt and pain of not having them in my life than I was ever able to sustain with them in my life.

When you have those days where it feels impossible to love yourself, you have simply fallen out of alignment with your power. Do not try and force the love back in. Acknowledge that you’re having a moment of being out of alignment. Feel what you need to feel and deal with the discomfort so you can heal this sad and lost moment. It is just a moment.

As an adult, this woman becomes furious at herself because she feels she talks too much in conversations when she doesn’t need to. Through her healing journey, she has been able to uncover that her oversharing stems from the old feelings of nervousness she had as child, which led her to fill the space between herself and her parents to garner some

Worry That People Are Mad at You Having been raised by emotionally abusive parents, many of you will fear that anyone you love will suddenly find fault with you and become angry. From this fear, you may reflexively seek reassurance in your relationships far more than is necessary, making you seem insecure to those who couldn’t possibly understand

Your parents’ denial of their own insecurity was responsible for the advanced melodramas they used to feign confidence whenever needed. They were performers, not genuine people. They overcompensated by wearing a fake personality of contrived kindness, hoping their charm would camouflage their cruelty. Their theatrics may have fooled others, but

Humor is powerful enough to evict shame. When you allow yourself to laugh at the cuteness and humanity of your flaws and foibles, the more playful you have the potential to become, and the more comfortable other people feel to express or own their own flaws and foibles when in your presence.