Remember, you can’t expect immature, emotionally phobic people to be different from how they are. However, you can set a specific goal for the interaction.

In the climate of such interest and acceptance, you’ll feel that you can be completely yourself and may find yourself telling the other person things you hadn’t planned to or sharing a personal experience that you usually keep to yourself. You’ll also notice that the more you share with such people, the more they share with you. That’s how true

Because they grew up anticipating their parent’s stormy emotional weather, they can be overly attentive to other people’s feelings and moods, often to their own detriment.

Stepping Out of an Old Role-Self

Being enjoyable to be around is a somewhat ineffable characteristic, but it’s crucial for relationship satisfaction. Reviewing the traits above, you can see that emotionally mature people have an overall positive vibe that’s pleasurable to be around. They aren’t always happy, of course, but for the most part they seem able to generate their own

At the severe end of the spectrum, these parents are, quite frankly, mentally ill. They may be psychotic or bipolar, or have narcissistic or borderline personality disorder.

Emotionally immature parents often placate or rescue externalizing children.

And while externalizers are told that their behavior is a problem, internalizers get the message that their very nature is the problem.

They’re less obviously harmful than the other types