How can we stop criticizing ourselves if we continue to look for flaws in everyone else? We all know the old saying “When you point one finger, three are pointed back at you.” We are most critical of behaviors that poke at our greatest fears. The more we practice, the more our inner self-talk is kinder. We are all judgmental. Human beings will alwa

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9. Irrational but persistent. Often we know that what the fearful voice in our heads says is irrational, yet it still has power over us. 10. The one-two punch. The one-two punch goes like this. Let’s say first, the inner critic starts mumbling to you about how everyone else in the room has it more together than you do. Then the critic follows up with

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Self-loathing is not productive and typically doesn’t result in better behavior. But if you can’t see yourself accurately, you can’t change anything, or have any impetus to change: loving yourself isn’t incompatible with believing you’re capable of more.