Acting like emotions don't exist is a poor strategy

The alternative is not to kick your feelings out of the play. The alternative is to make them an actor. They have a role to play. Sometimes it’s an important role, and sometimes they function as an “extra.” So now who is the director? Let’s give that job to the Needs of the Situation. You’re taking a walk and spot an empty, dirty beer can. What do

Don’t tell people, “I’ll teach you how to process emotions.” Nobody who is not already a mindset coach ever got out of bed and thought to themselves, “Hmm, I am having some emotions to process today.” They think, “My life sucks. I need cookies.”

The ability to feel anxiety, self-distrust, or guilt is an asset: these are alarm signals warning of danger to our well-being. Such emotions can be painful, even devastating, but if they cause a person to stop, to question his or her policies, perhaps to seek professional help, then they serve a useful purpose in protecting the person’s life. If th

If feelings are meant to inform and nudge, emotions are the alarm bells, screaming at you that something changed and that you need to do something

Even the most logical, rational human beings are driven by emotion. Clients will respond to you based on what they feel, not what they (or you) know.

Carly has self-observed on three levels of experience: somatic (tightness), emotion (anger), and cognitive (story about her strength and what she deserves). These represent three distinct yet interrelated elements of her reaction. Being able to observe these phenomena is the first step in familiarity and skill in working with the habit. Each level