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Acceptance Parenting | The Point Magazine
The generation gap was expansive: parents and their children were living with two very different senses of the present. For parents, social norms and participation in production and reproduction were at the rate of a lifetime. You were free to do what you wanted with your lifetime, but you needed to be loyal to the commitments you made for this lif
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Parenting is enlivening but it is also exhausting; for parents it can be difficult to disentangle exhilaration from enervation.
Shai Held • Judaism Is About Love: Recovering the Heart of Jewish Life
Americans have come to define liberty “negatively, as lack of dependence, the right not to be obligated to others. Independence came to mean immunity from social claims on one’s wealth or time.” If this is how you conceive of liberty—as freedom from obligation—then the transition to parenthood is a dizzying shock. Most Americans are free to choose ... See more
Jennifer Senior • All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood
“the child can become himself only as the parent is defeated.”
Meghan Daum • Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on the Decision Not to Have Kids
I’d adapted too quickly to the idea that autonomy should come above all else. I thought of this as a moral value, an unquestionably desirable state. This was surely the type of thing that would make me strange in the eyes of my family, if not a stranger.
Aysegül Savas • The Anthropologists
Winnicott’s crucial insight was that the parents’ agony was coming from a particular place: excessive hope. Their despair was a consequence of a cruel and counterproductive perfectionism. To help them reduce this, Winnicott developed a charming phrase: ‘the good enough parent’. No child, he insisted, needs an ideal parent. They just need an OK, pre
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