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A Crush Can Teach You a Lot About Yourself
- I think that people come alive when they’re serious about what they love—when they choose to pay careful attention to what feeds and sustains them. I love this one Heather Havrilesky line about how crushes are often just misplaced ambition. Of course crushes are more than that—they’re about nostalgia and magic and futures we’ll never access—but I t... See more
from how to avoid half-heartedness by Ava
sari added
- I think that people come alive when they’re serious about what they love—when they choose to pay careful attention to what feeds and sustains them. I love this one Heather Havrilesky line about how crushes are often just misplaced ambition. Of course crushes are more than that—they’re about nostalgia and magic and futures we’ll never access—but I t... See more
from how to avoid half-heartedness by Ava
Zach Kirshner added
sari added
- Crushers, the point is, indulge in a funny kind of transference of agency. They appear to prostrate themselves. They gift total power to their crush, invest them with celestial kinds of significance. Your crush, it is tempting to think, could fix you. But in reality, they hoard power. All this wanting exists in their desire. They are unwilling or u... See more
from Romance plot by Small Wire
Phil Nguyen added
In fact, a crush is painful, so in spiritual consciousness, we may feel compassion for the person who obsesses about us in that way.
from How to Be an Adult in Love: Letting Love in Safely and Showing It Recklessly by David Richo
Relationships are like gazing into clear, bottomless pools of water. Look hard enough and you’ll meet the eyes of your own reflection. Stare into the soul of someone else long enough, and you’ll fall deeper into the abyss of yourself. The more you love the person in front of you, the more you understand yourself.
- Grace Sydney Smith
Stuart Evans added
- The distinction between the two modes I’m trying to define is that one side takes the position that being fascinated with something or someone in the world has a benefit that is self-evident. Being able to feel love towards something or someone is a gift in and of itself. The other side (the side that annoys me) orients fascination or association o... See more
from Here for the Wrong Reasons
gabriel added
- There is often a desire to escape oneself in love. It’s not so much that one wants to be welcomed by another person. It’s that one wants to forget oneself and immerse in the perfection of another…
from Aloneness, Belonging, and the Paradox of Vulnerability, in Love and Creative Work by Maria Popova
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