A Crush Can Teach You a Lot About Yourself
So, our crushes often exist to tell us what we are looking for within ourselves. They tell us where our ambition is pointing. And that's quite useful. Because if you don't think you know what you want, or where you want to go, or what you want to do, or what you want to be more of, just look at your crushes:
What do they all have in common that mak... See more
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Isabel • crushes are often just misplaced ambition
I know that limerence can be misleading. It can be the beginning of a good relationship, or a complete disaster. If someone feels like the answer to the question of your life, you might want to address the fundamental sense of lack that they are triggering.
Sasha Chapin • 50 Things I Know
Crushes can be more about projection than attraction.
Hallstrom-Conkright emphasizes that we often project a series of valued attributes onto an individual and then attach strong positive feelings to the image we created. Projections can be complicated and irrational, and the feelings resulting from these projections can be quite dramatic. She adds ... See more
Hallstrom-Conkright emphasizes that we often project a series of valued attributes onto an individual and then attach strong positive feelings to the image we created. Projections can be complicated and irrational, and the feelings resulting from these projections can be quite dramatic. She adds ... See more
Liana Lozada • Here's What Your Crush Really Says About You
Many of us form profound attachments when we read. Sometimes we attach ourselves to characters, imagining them as our friends or lovers or most profound enemies; sometimes a book’s author draws us, perhaps because of a persona he or she projects, perhaps—especially if we are writers or would-be writers ourselves—because we admire and envy.
Alan Jacobs • The Pleasures of Reading in an Age of Distraction
I think that people come alive when they’re serious about what they love—when they choose to pay careful attention to what feeds and sustains them. I love this one Heather Havrilesky line about how crushes are often just misplaced ambition. Of course crushes are more than that—they’re about nostalgia and magic and futures we’ll never access—but I t... See more