Self-Assignments These techniques will help you hone your capacity to get in touch with feelings as they occur.

So many high-achieving people get trapped into obsessing about the external world and neglecting their internal world. When you’ve been suppressing things for so long, you can’t just decide to stop all at once. Learning to listen to yourself takes a long time. I used to think that I always had to justify everything to myself—that I needed to be com

Suppose the little boy is pounding his fists on the floor in frustration and Mom says, “You look angry.” The little boy puts the word and the feeling together and learns to refer to that feeling as “anger,” perhaps even “my anger.” He has gotten a clear reflection and he has learned something accurate about himself. On the other hand, if Mom says,