The technique of merging rests upon the rock of gentleness. When we are gentle towards others, it does not mean that we allow them to walk all over us. It simply means that when we decide to take a stand in anything, we do so with respect towards others. By adding a soft touch to our daily doings, we create curves where there are hard edges and we

We must be honest, but we must also be gentle and considerate. The softer our touch, the greater the opening will be.

Second, choose a gentle response. Paul says, “Let your gentleness be evident to all” (Philippians 4:5). This is a word that has to do with submission, with yielding. Paul is inviting us to slow down, surrender, and be gentle.