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I turned Rohr’s five rules into five shifts. Instead of saying, “Life is hard,” I said, “It’s a shift from ease to difficulty.” Instead of saying, “You’re not important,” I said, “Boys care about themselves, but men care about others.” Instead of saying, “Your life is not about you,” I said, “You’re part of the story, but you’re not the whole story