334 / Parent or not: finding networks of care

"It seems like, at least in these early years, the parents' role is to communicate with the child and let them know, 'I'm here for you when you're upset, when you need me. And when you don't need me, I'm your cheerleader,' " says Lee Raby, a psychologist and postdoctoral researcher at the University of Delaware who led the study.

For example, if your parents weren’t aggressive or emotionally harmful, they were actually pretty good, but neither of them ever really expressed their emotions or made you feel like you could, that is something that can require a healing process, or more so, an emotional learning process. Nothing here was intentionally harmful, you just never lear

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