30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage

One couple chose what they considered to be the most important domains in marriage—for them, these included money, children, career, religion, friends, and sex—and each wrote down one value for each domain.

“Can you see yourself being with this person the rest of your life?”

Take an extended driving trip with the person you want to marry for eight hours a day. See if you can keep each other interested and not fight about where to get off the highway, where to get food. That will give you lots of good information!

no sense of an endpoint

When he and I would be in a room together with a lot of people, he would be looking at me and I would be looking and there was just a connection.

“What questions do you desperately want answered about relationships, love, and marriage?”

Follow your heart.

But the experts say that when you are deciding whether to commit, a list can be very helpful.

“How do I know for certain that a person is the right one for me?”