30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage

Disconnect from your electronic devices when you are away from work.

But the experts say that when you are deciding whether to commit, a list can be very helpful.

Like almost all of the elders I met from Puerto Rico—and indeed from throughout the Caribbean—Jessica played dominoes. “We used to go to a club to play dominoes there. I love to play dominoes and he liked it, too. It’s nice; it’s fun. And it keeps your mind sharp, you know?

When asked how to prevent a major blowup, a surprising number of experts recommended offering your partner something to eat. One of the worst times to have an intense discussion is when you are hungry.

if no one else likes your partner, that’s a very serious warning sign.

One couple chose what they considered to be the most important domains in marriage—for them, these included money, children, career, religion, friends, and sex—and each wrote down one value for each domain.

Once you’ve assessed your heart, you need to logically and rationally assess the potential for a satisfying, lifelong

Kathy’s message is that you may know on some level if the relationship is just wrong, but it requires listening carefully to the inner voice. You

Take an extended driving trip with the person you want to marry for eight hours a day. See if you can keep each other interested and not fight about where to get off the highway, where to get food. That will give you lots of good information!