3-2-1: On control, saying no, and keeping an open mind

2. Will this enlarge or diminish me?

This is a question for making big decisions. I first heard this advice in Oliver Burkeman’s last column for The Guardian, ”The Eight secrets to a (fairly) fulfilled life”:

When stumped by a life choice, choose “enlargement” over happiness. I’m indebted to the Jungian therapist James Hollis for the insight that ma

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