3-2-1: How to ask for what you want, the mistake creators make, and letting go
James Clearjamesclear.com
3-2-1: How to ask for what you want, the mistake creators make, and letting go
The thing is, most people don’t ask for what they want. They wish for it, they make “suggestions” and drop hints, they hope. But the simple fact of business is that only by asking do you receive what you want. No ASK? No GET. That applies to every part of life. Seriously, every part.
Noah Kagan • Million Dollar Weekend: The Surprisingly Simple Way to Launch a 7-Figure Business in 48 Hours
Life punishes the vague wish and rewards the specific ask.
Timothy Ferriss • Tribe of Mentors: Short Life Advice from the Best in the World
Ask culture and guess culture are vastly different in behavior and expectations. Here are some highlights:
Ask culture expectations
Ask culture expectations
- Ask for what you want, even if it seems out of reach or like a big unreasonable request
- Take care of your own needs, and others will take care of theirs
- It’s fine to make requests that people will probably say no to
- People
Jean Hsu • Ask vs Guess Culture
“For a few weeks, I started each morning by writing “What do I actually want?” at the top of a blank page.
It’s surprising how useful it is to keep asking the same question. Each time, my answer became more precise.
Once I knew what I wanted, I turned it into action steps.”
It’s surprising how useful it is to keep asking the same question. Each time, my answer became more precise.
Once I knew what I wanted, I turned it into action steps.”
jamesclear.com • 3-2-1: On attracting luck, taking risks, and the ineffectiveness of anger | James Clear
Regardless of the activity, after confronting our fears and practicing our ability to boldly ask for what we want, we learn three big things: Number one, most of the time people say yes. In many cases they’re happy to help with such unconventional requests because it makes their day more interesting, too.
Tripp Lanier • This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle
If you don’t ask, how can anyone say “yes”?
Ben Hunt • Convert!: Designing Web Sites to Increase Traffic and Conversion
Ask for things. Ask for things that feel unreasonable , to make sure your intuitions about what’s reasonable are accurate (try not to be a jerk in the process). If you’re only asking for things you get, you’re not aiming high enough.
Cate Hall • How to Be More Agentic
Britt Gage added
What I'm learning is that it is important to be decisive and go after what you want, but at the same time let go of wanting things to work out a certain way.
Some might describe this as not being attached to outcomes. I call this the willingness to let life surprise me, or the willingness to live in a world of 'maybe'.
Some might describe this as not being attached to outcomes. I call this the willingness to let life surprise me, or the willingness to live in a world of 'maybe'.
Julian Wong • Forever lessons
juliana ong added
“Have urgency but don’t rush”