#181 Dear Baby: Am I fit to be a parent?
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#181 Dear Baby: Am I fit to be a parent?
but how to decide most wisely what not to do, and how to feel at peace about not doing it.
What do you have to do? You must understand two truths about yourself. Here’s the first truth: your life is in a mess. Of course you might not like to hear that. It might insult you, which only proves it’s true. Say to someone your life is in a mess and they are likely to object with, “What do you mean? I’m doing pretty well. I have a career; I hav
... See moreIntolerance of uncertainty: I must be 100% certain. Perfectionism: I must not make mistakes. Over-responsibility: I am responsible for everyone’s happiness and safety.
Instead, the endless struggle leads to more anxiety and a less fulfilling life. For example, the more you believe you might succeed in “fitting everything in,” the more commitments you naturally take on, and the less you feel the need to ask whether each new commitment is truly worth a portion of your time—and so your days inevitably fill with more
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