There’s a pervasive idea, at least among my peers, that [your 30s] should bring about a sense of calm and self-acceptance. We may have dispensed with the precepts surrounding marriage and kids, but there remains a non-specific expectation of “settling in.” Into yourself, into what you want. I took great comfort in this idea when I was in my 20s. I... See more

I’ve found myself wanting to get out of the liminal place I’ve been floating in — wanting it to be done already, wanting to arrive in clarity, wanting to feel more certain or sure about what I’m supposed to be doing and how I should be doing it. Part of me feels like this pressure to “get there” comes from the false belief that there is anywhere... See more

Again: do things that are out of character for you. Experiment in small ways before you experiment in big ways*.* A lot of people think they need to, like, hop on a flight to Nepal or take on a part-time job as a florist in order to experience some kind of important realization about their life. But actually they are probably rejecting a thousand

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