Tighten the vice so people feel snug, not strangled. Find ways, either through context, belief systems or vision to tether all of the chaos down to something that makes sense of the world, that creates tension against the looseness.
Jasmine Bina • A Time to Build Tight Brands in the Chaos of Loose Cultures
As humans, we have a confused relationship with edges, boundaries and limitations, which can be seen as one and the same thing, unified paradoxically by their dividing potential... We seek them even when, as a psychological or relational construct, we recoil from their necessity, and will often find ourselves drawn to and entranced by the water’s e... See more
Donald Winnicott • Article
Reaching our boundaries is not the same as limiting our growth. Sometimes we find our edges and an amazing thing happens; capacity is rebuilt, old wounds are healed and we grow further and more beautifully than before. The process is analogous to mineral growth in rock. Without a surface and a set of containing edges, minerals that we prize for the... See more
Donald Winnicott • Article
This is the importance of a container: it acts as portal to your World. If your excitable interests are like the elemental charged background atoms of your unformed World, then the container is the medium of their first expression.
Ian Cheng • Emissary's Guide To Worlding
“things of the world,” by which she means precisely the human-built world, in, as she put it, “stabilizing human life” — anchors of identity; but maybe not anchors but rather navigational beacons that help us map the self across time.)
L. M. Sacasas • The Stuff of Life: Materiality and the Self
Stories are how we gain a sense of control of the future because they supply us with a role in the story, a vector of meaning at every beat, and the promise of more meaning to come.
Ian Cheng • Emissary's Guide To Worlding
It is generally a fear of space, a fear that we will not be able to anchor ourselves to any solid ground, that we will lose our identity as a fixed and solid and definite thing. This could be very threatening.